Tuesday, August 12

Hiya folks, long time no see! Just a quick post to let you know that I'm going to be hosting a fat positive clothes swap on 7th September in London. There'll be clothes and zines and cake and lots of opportunities to meet other rad fat people. The one in February was fantastic so would love to see more of my readers at this one.

RSVP via facebook here and you can make donations in advance here (if you can do this, please do as we're paying to hire a venue this time!). If you have any questions feel free to get in touch.

K x

Sunday, June 29

More broken leg fashions hurray. The trousers are on mega sale at Simply Be here and come mega recommended, they're super comfortable, slim, stretchy and high waisted. The top is a body/leotard and also new from Forever 21 here - it's *so* excellent I'm wearing it with most things.

Leotard, Forever 21+ £8.75
Trousers, Simply Be, £8.50
Shoes, Sun Jellies via eBay, £12.99
Braces, borrowed

P.S obnoxious colour combinations are kinda fun, aren't they? I also like the femme butchness I have going on here. 

Thursday, June 26

So my latest accessory is a robot boot and some crutches.... which I gained after breaking my ankle in May. *Thankfully* I'm almost mended up now. I wore this to go for a little walk in my local park today. It's pretty simple, but also my summer uniform and what makes me feel the best. The shorts are on their way out so I'd welcome recommendations for other high waisted fat sized shorts?

Crop top, £4.50, Forever 21+
Shorts, New Look inspire, £15
Shoes, Crocs via clothes swap

Wednesday, June 11

Why health is not a useful discussion

Today on twitter I said something about fat (about how I hate the fact that getting fat is seen as worse than ANYTHING even really awful stuff). I was thinking about this because I was remembering how someone on the same ward as me in hospital (when I was having/recovering from ankle surgery recently) seemed to be more scared of getting fat than the implications of her (really bad) knee injury.

I got trolled, and I replied and got drawn into something which I shouldn't have really, but I get fed up of not responding and thus being silent/feeling oppressed.

The person made a bunch of assumptions which were:
- Fat people are unhealthy
- Fat people don't eat well or exercise at all
- Fat people eat McDonalds
- Parents who let their kids get fat are bad parents
- Parents who feed their kids McDonalds are bad parents
- Skinny parents with fat children are even worse

I called them out and every time they would state another assumption whilst saying they weren't talking about me personally, but fat people as a whole. I told them what they were saying was wrong, classist, fat shaming and health shaming (tip of the iceberg), and to be honest I think I'd rather they had criticised *me* personally rather than making massive generalisations about all fat people, as if that was somewhat better.

I am fed up of fat meaning EVERYTHING else - it took 8 minutes for someone to bring up McDonalds in reference to a tweet about nothing related. Just now I logged in again and found that someone else has tweeted me offering exercise "advice" and telling me that it is possible to eat well for less. A few dieting accounts have followed me too. It's impossible to talk about fat without it being conflated with health, or morbidity, or gluttony, or a million other things.

I can deal with this and I'm not upset personally - I'm used to dealing with this every day, but I thought this would be a good time to talk about it. Most people would've brought up HAES, but I didn't, because I'm a fat adult who was a fat kid raised by fat(sometimes) parents who fed me McDonalds - and I'm okay and don't resent this at all. I live a sedentary life and I'm not healthy. I don't care! So are a lot of thin people! I also don't think anyone has an obligation to be healthy. I think there are more complicating factors around being healthy i.e. time, money and resources that are needed to exercise and that not all people have access to. Hey, if you can eat healthily and exercise on a budget, I'm happy for you, honest, but this doesn't mean everyone can or even should be obliged to.

I also think that using health as a get out clause ignores the wider problem of fat shaming, that it's not fair to only defend those who are fit, healthy, otherwise socially acceptable fat people. Making excuses that justify our right to be fat is adhering to a social agenda that insists that being fat is inherently inferior. Here's another example: on that telly programme a lot of you saw me on, I was repeatedly asked about what I ate that day, how much I exercised, what I ordered when I ate out. I refused to give "good" answers (or "bad" answers), but the necessity for me to tell them this was there. I'm sure none of the other participants faced that sort of questioning. 

I don't care if you're fat because it's genetic, because you're lazy or unhealthy, if you can't exercise or afford to eat well, I don't care if you're slightly fat, or if you're super fat, if we can't support each other in different lifestyles, then fat acceptance isn't acceptance at all. So you won't catch me talking about health when I talk about the right to be fat, to live fat and to exist without being shamed.

Friday, March 28

A couple of quick outfits from the last few weeks!

Shirt, New Look, £20
Jumper and leggings, clothes swap
Shoes, New Look, £6
Jacket, Dorothy Perkins via eBay, £30
Necklace, Black Heart Creatives
Hoops, Deptford Market

Jacket - as before
T-shirt, Topshop, £3
Cami, H&M, £6
Skirt, Forever 21+, £6
Shoes, Topshop, £15

Thursday, March 13

Oh look I'm outside, now I'm a proper blogger go me! I picked up a bunch of cool stuff from the fat swap a few weeks back, the jacket, jumper and shoes in this picture (recognise those? I wore them to death last summer so was mega happy to get another pair). This simple styling is becoming a basic go-to outfit for me now that spring is approaching.

Jacket, jumper and shoes, via fat clothes swap
Jeans, Forever 21+, £20
Necklace, Forever 21, £6ish

Tuesday, March 11

Just a quick outfit from last week. These shoes were a sales buy after Christmas and are pretty much the best ever!

T-shirt: Unskinny Bop, £10
Skirt, handmade
Shoes, Topshop, £15
Hoops, Deptford Market, £2